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September 10, 2021 By Frank Lyford Leave a Comment

What Do Our Shadows Hold?

What will we find when we explore the catacombs of our soul?

I wrote this poem in response to my introspection in 2003…

Awaken from Dark Fancy

In angst I shine my light to cast the demons from my soul.
Come forth thou darkened theater, depart your recessed hole,
Whose rot and fester haunt the hoard of my subconscious hold,
Do permeate my sight, my touch, my being’s every fold.
Forgotten, not forgiven, wretched tragedies, take flight!
Away! Begone, dark demons—oust the shadows by the light.
They are but vapors of dark fancy—creatures wrought in fear.
So see them as they are—awake! And know that love is here,
Rise up in waking presence full, awaken to love’s giving,
Awaken to love’s essence pure. Awake to join the living.

If we don’t look into our own shadows, we will never see the untruths that we have believed about ourselves that have, by default, formed the foundation of our lives.

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August 27, 2017 By Frank Lyford Leave a Comment

Undimming Our Light

CandleShieldedByWomanI first wrote this post a while ago, and I’m sharing it now because it has come up often recently, and now is such a time of change. A couple of months ago, someone asked me these questions (paraphrasing):

Is it normal for certain people in your life to feed off your light and potential, yet see your potential, and express impatience for you to achieve your goals, but also play a part in pushing you into previous negative patterns?

Can those we love be the biggest catalyst in our growth?

Yes, there’s no question: Those we love are most often our biggest catalysts for growth!

These questions could describe a wound-mate relationship (as opposed to a soul-mate relationship). Wound-mates can be spouses, parents, children, friends, co-workers, etc., and so can soul-mates.

What is a wound-mate relationship? A wound-mate relationship is one in which each partner, generally without trying whatsoever, brings to the surface in the other person whatever core wounds each took on in the first seven years of life. The four main core wounds are: not being seen, not being heard, not feeling loved or lovable, and not feeling nurtured or feeling over-nurtured (thus not feeling safe).

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August 19, 2017 By Frank Lyford Leave a Comment

Inner Compass

CompassThis post is a different mode of expression from others recently. It’s an original poem that expresses in broad strokes my journey out of dark night back to inner-guided life.

 

 

Inner Compass

To light my way in journey out of night,
Such gifted guides illumined bright my sight,
To show that not another’s mind or part—
But only mine, the knowing of my heart—
Could ever bring tranquility or rest
To such deep yearnings held within my chest.

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August 16, 2017 By Frank Lyford Leave a Comment

Our Higher Selves Are Forcing Us to Face Our Shadows

Today I will live in the moment... unless the moment is unpleasant, in which case I will eat a cookie.Someone presented this cartoon recently on one of my favorite groups. Aside from what kind of cookies we all liked to “medicate” with, our dialog went like this…

Me: That hasn’t been working for me lately. The moments I’ve been resisting or medicating in some way… they come back anyway. Higher self seems to be forcing us now to deal with the stuff we’ve been resisting all our lives (and past lives as well?).

Me: So my new commitment, in addition to remembering my joy, is to be willing to sit in the discomfort of the moment to hear the message that it’s here to bring me about myself.

Friend: What do you mean, “sit in the discomfort of the moment”?

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January 29, 2016 By Frank Lyford Leave a Comment

My Vision

candelightAll truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
~ Arthur Schopenhauer

My vision, shared below, is not yet “true”—not yet in form—in my current reflection of reality. I hesitate to share it because it could be seen as science fiction-fantasy, or my own brand of insanity, or perhaps it could be our future. It may not unfold as I’ve pictured it—it may be even better—but its meaning for me is contained in its essence. I hold it as a reference point for a possible, future self-evident truth. Co-created in an inspired state, it is described in four iterations: local, regional, national, and global/galactic.

Local

My vision for every client I coach, and each coaching conversation I have, is that they see their own magic, that they touch something amazing within themselves to know without question that what they are made of at their core is finer than the purest gold, the most luxurious silk, or the finest diamond.

If you realized how beautiful you are, you would fall at your own feet.
~ Byron Katie

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